UNBECOMING: Your Unorthodox Guide to Radical Wholeness

Chapter Five: Unbecoming generational wounds


Essential Oils


Marjoram dervies from the flowering plant, also known as Origanum majorana. Marjoram oil has been used for many centuries and has a long association with beauty and love. The beautiful floral scent of Marjoram is said, in Greek mythology, to have been given by the touch of Aphrodite, the goddess of love.

bottle of Marjoram

More About The Oil

Releases fear of connecting deeply to others

Encourages feelings of trust and security

Supports the healing of past wounds

Gently softens the heart

“You are not to blame for who you have been, you have been part of a system, emerging as an expression of it.”

-Dr. Morgana McCabe Allan

From Morgana

Marjoram was one of the very first essential oils I ever started working with 27 years ago. It has such an ancient history of supporting healing and spiritual growth. Originally, I was drawn to for its connection to resolving insomnia, particularly where it’s connected to anxiety and stress, but as I learned more about it came to love it’s deeply spiritual side, where it serves to support connection with the living (with ancient use in marriage rites) and to the deceased and ancestors.

Beyond that, it’s also considered both protective and lucky – a magical combination for those who are in the work of Unbecoming. As we grieve parts of ourselves, connect with our generational and ancestral gifts and wounds, reforge our relationships from a new sense of self, and experience the anxiety of growth and change, Marjoram is a beautiful guide along the way.


Dr. Morgana x

Practice Reminder

Adding a few drops of marjoram essential oil (sweet or spanish varieties) into a warm bath, is a beautiful, soothing way, to experience it’s benefits. 

Always make sure to check all safety information for any oil before you try using it. For more information, get the download here.

Why I picked these oils

When I was choosing the oils to accompany Unbecoming the book was already written and had already been read by 100s of people around the world. Adding them wasn’t a planned part of the book, but rather an acknowledgement of what the work actually takes - Unbecoming doesn’t happen in isolation, but in practice, with tools that support you every day, even when you’re not actively “doing the work”.

Over the 2 years since I completed writing on the first edition, I’ve been reflecting on what tools and guides have best accompanied my own Unbecoming throughout life, as it’s a process I’ve essentially always been in. Beyond that, which have best served mentees in my various different roles as a leader and facilitator of spiritual growth, over the past 27 years. The more I looked, the more I realised essential oils were everywhere - they were literally the reason I was thrown out of church in the first place.

The six oils I selected ultimately reflect the needs we have when we’re cut loose from a reality that felt real to us, albeit restrictive and ill-fitting, and begin to create anew. We need to cleanse negative energies with a clear head (eucalyptus), and to reconnect to nature and our own true nature (virginian cedarwood). We need to take back our power (ginger) and to ground into and amplify our own being and intentions (black pepper). We need to heal our wounds, grieve and move forwards positively (marjoram) and to consider what our own Unbecoming means for past, present and future generations, reconciling where we’ve been with where we wish to go as we move forwards, individually and collectively (Siberian fir). 

These oils are all incredibly potent on their own, but also offer many beautiful blending options to meet your changing needs day-by-day as you explore your own Unbecoming and the infinite expansion it offers. 


Dr. Morgana x

Further Reading

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